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Traditionally, the bride's parents host this, but in recent years this has changed as families have grown and expanded beyond the traditional. Nowadays, just about any relative or friend on either side can host the party. The hosts should be thanked with a small gift, flowers or perhaps a dinner invitation. I know it is proper to purchase Thank You gifts for my attendants, what type of gift is appropriate? You can choose from a wide assortment of items ranging from the traditional and elegant, to the eclectic and innovative. Your personality and special relationship with each attendant should guide your choices. Your choices need not be expensive, but quality is a sign of respect and true gratitude. What are the typical expenses each Bridesmaid should be expected to furnish? Bridesmaids are responsible for the purchase of their dress, shoes and all accessories, (although your Thank You gift can be matching jewelry for them to wear); you should exercise care when choosing the style and colors for these dresses so as to be complimentary to each individual. Taking them with you while choosing can help you to find the perfect look for your court. They should pay for all personal transportation to and from the wedding, (airfare, etc.). Etiquette also dictates they should purchase an individual gift for the couple and share the cost of a luncheon, shower or co-ed party. My Father/Mother (or other significant Family member) passed away recently. How can I still include him/her in the ceremony? A single rose on the alter, with an explanation in the program would be fitting. You could include a meaningful verse, a quotation or a personal note of condolence. At the reception you might want to dedicate a special song, (perhaps their favorite), to them, and dance with their surviving significant other. I have many people in mind as attendants. Is seven too many? Yes, seven is a bit much. You should try to keep the numbers even in respect to guys and gals. Select your top four and ask them first. If one or more are unable to fill the role, then go down your list. Do I need to send invitations to the Caterers, Photographers, DJs, etc.? No, it's not necessary and isn't expected. They should already be aware of the date & time of your event. These are professional service providers, not guests and as such should not be included in the guest list or head-count for meals. Should I mention where we are registered in our invitation? No. Any mention of registries, gifts, etc., is considered crass and improper within an invitation. Make sure your parents, wedding party, and other close friends and family know where you're registered, so that when people ask them they can let them know. My co-workers are throwing a shower for me. Am I obligated to invite them all to the wedding and reception? No, you need not. If it's a "work" shower, thrown with coworkers only, and not your main shower, you do not need to invite everyone. How long do I have to compose and send thank-you notes? Traditionally, 3-4 months was acceptable, but in our faster times 4-6 weeks is more like it. Etiquette indicates all thank-yous should be hand-written, on nice notepaper. Our Pastor has no set fee, but accepts donations toward custodial services. How much? First of all, tipping the Officiant is traditional and in good taste. However, the amount varies from place to place. As a general rule $150-$300 is suggested. Have the best man give the money to them, explaining that some is custodial and some is for his/her kindness. I have a Biological Parent and a step-Parent. How do I handle the Father/Daughter-Mother/Son dance at the reception? They could each get a full dance with you. If you select this option, dance with the one you feel closest to first. On the other hand, if there's any family friction (or if this will cause friction) you could omit this dance from the event. You could also opt to dance with a Grandparent. Should meal choices be listed on response cards or should we just select one meal? Both are acceptable. You might find that a buffet-style meal is more affordable with a wider selection for your guests.
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